Nothing says “orphan” like your first Mother’s Day without a mother. Father’s Day ceased to be a celebration for me a long time ago. It’s really, really weird for all of my parents and grandparents to be gone. My little nuclear family – Mom, Dad, Susan, and Oma – is no longer together, and I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself today. Susan has her own little family now. Pete, Anna Jane, and Luke are the most precious people in the world to her and to me. I have Coco, but I’ve always been her sister, not her mom.
I will not wallow in self-pity, though. I have many good memories of my beautiful, strong, loving mother, and I’m especially grateful I was able to share her story with the Stella & Dot world. I hope I have inherited her resilience and her willingness to let go of regrets and focus on what really matters – the people and experiences that make life worth living.
To celebrate Mother’s Day, I’m going to wear something cute, put on my Meredith Stretch Bracelet, and go shopping at Nordstrom, because that’s what my mom would be doing if she were here. I think I’ll go for a walk in Memorial Park later and then watch the season finale of Revenge. I can’t let the day pass without eating some chocolate (sorry, Cassie!) I hope I get to do FaceTime with my mom’s favorite people in the world.
I think Mother’s Day is about connections, whether you are a mother, stepmother, grandmother, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, daughter-in-law, maternal figure, daughter, friend, sister, cousin, or aunt. Moms connect us as human beings. It’s the one thing women all over the world have in common. This day can be heartbreaking for women who want to be mothers but aren’t, for women whose mothers and children are no longer with them in this life, and for women whose difficult relationships with their mothers and children make this day a painful reminder of broken relationships. Celebrating the connections among us honors the nurturing we give and receive both in and out of the context of mothering.
Whatever relationship you have with the women and children in your life, you are valued just as you are. Mother’s Day is a celebration of women and the roles they play every day. Tomorrow moms will go back to doing the things they do best: loving and caring for their families, working to support their families and to share their gifts and talents with the world, and teaching the rest of us what devotion to something bigger than themselves looks like.
Happy Mother’s Day, everyone!